Thursday, June 11, 2009
Sienz... last nite my fren made up her mind to leave her home, her husband n her childrens coz she cant take it anymore. The reason she give is, every1 will b happier wif her gone.
I think the tears her cried ystd until 2day could b more than the tears i shed in half year...
How my heart went out for her.
Even tho she took the decision to leave, deep inside her heart she is hoping her husband will realise her importance n ask her back. She was hoping her husband will finally realise he cant handle the kids n home w/o her.
But on the other hand, she told me...if dats the reasons her husband wan her back. It's totally WRONG. Her husband shud wan her back bcoz he LOVE her, not bcoz he nid her to b the maid to take care the household and the kids!
B4 she left, her husband din say anything about HE nid her or he love her and wan her to stay. He onli said "pls stay few days so i can arrange some1 to take care the kids" another thing he said is "im a responsible man, pls stay few days for me to get u some money, else how u gonna live?"
Zzzzzzzzz
She realli dun have any destination to go, but her pride told her it's time to leave. Her husband din even told her dun leave, jz ask her leave few days later. In the end she took the rm100 her husband gave her (her pocket and whole savings onli have rm30)
She dunno whr to go, who to turn to (she onli find me tis morning), wat to do n how to go on wif her life. It's totally diff from the time she ran away wif her youngest son coz her son is her motivation to go on, no matter how hard she will walk on the road so dat her son will have a normal life.
Tis time, she crumbled. She falled. She couldnt find a reason to stand up again. In the end after some advice frm her husband's relative she decided to rent a room in a hotel/motel nearby for the nite (the time she went out already 9pm)
Tml morning she will find a job and if her husband still onli wan her for the household, she's not goin back. She will find back her life. She was determined.
But her husband is damn smart, after they talked on the phone n she refused to go back bcoz he doesnt love her anymore, he told her "OK, i come fetch u and we go to the lawyer firm to do the divorcing things now"
She agreed but she told her husband to bring her youngest child as she want to c him for the last time. But her husband took the chance to bring her home n talked to her again.
He told her "i cant tell u i love u as i dun wan to lie to u, but u r still in my heart" =.=" (Errr.... there is ppl dats in my heart but i dunno i love them or not coz i never get to realli spend time wif them) But tis is a totally diff case!
Wats dat huh? she is baffled, when she told me tis, my mouth went agape too.... Wats the damn meaning?
He give her choices,
1) we go for divorce now.
2) we go for the separate for 2 years but u r free to stay in tis house until u found a job n a place to stay. U dun have to do the hsework and i will send the kids to the nanny. But in tis 2 years n the time u stay in tis house, we r NOT husband n wife relationship. Ur relationships wif the kids remain as Mother and Children
Damn... wats he trying to do? Pity her? To show he is a responsible man? ZZZzz
Of course my fren dun agree coz she still love her husband n her sons. If she took the advantage of having a home to stay until she found work, she dunno her heart have to die how many times. It's very dam suffering.
So she told her husband NO... but at this point she is holding her youngest son in her arms n very heavy hearted to leave him again. Haizzz.... women women....
After dat her husband went back to work. He said, we cont when he come back.
When he came back, he give her another proposal... We go for the 2 years separation agreement but in tis half year we will live as husband and wife and try our best for 1 last time. If in the end we still cant live together happily, lovingly, trustingly... we separate until the 2 years is up n we r auto divorced.
Dam... if a husband dun love a wife anymore, he can act as a normal husband? Is he sincere to try bcoz there is still love in his heart for her or bcoz he is using her as his free "maid" , "nanny", "a hole to F" coz as wat my fren told me, at tis moment, her husband realli realli dun have the financial ability to send the kids to daycare...
I dunno the truth and she dunno the truth. Onli her husband know is he using her or he truly love her. And maybe god knows...
Half year, not a very long time and yet not a very short time. At least if he is tricking her for his own benefits, she onli have to b a fool for half year and there is no nid for her to hope for anything more...
Tis could b a consolation she give herself and oso a consolation i can give her...
There is ntg she can do at the moment. She cant let go of the kids and she dun have the ability to support herself. Maybe in half year time she is already working as she is looking for a job now. At dat time, maybe she wont b so confuse anymore.
Now dat she is back home, she feel weird. Maybe bcoz she know dat her husband doesnt love her...
Haiz... all i can do n she can do is to hope for the best.
